By Anna Murphy
New York, NY, USA
When I started my monthly column for Stay Thirsty about a year ago, I was a single twenty-something who shared a cramped living space with my sorority sister and spent way too many hours of my week publicly relating beauty products to the masses. I sometimes met with a few people to play music when we had an hour or two to kill. And I was living in the quarter-life, with crises on the reg.
Today, I am in a nearly 8-month relationship, living alone (still in a very cramped space) and am employed at a company that is the epitome of awesomeness and combines all of my interests - people, the internet and music. I also actually got serious about my "band" and we threw together a four-song EP that we've decided to semi-promote. But even with all these changes, I am still living in that gray area where I'm done building the framework for my future - but still just sitting on the rafters, not willing to commit to the full picture.
All these changes have come as a result of both fate and choices. I was lucky enough to be reintroduced to my boyfriend in NYC five years after initially meeting him in DC (our friends are siblings). I was persistent enough to jump ship from a three-year career that I was comfortable in to follow my dream of working in music. I was confident enough that I could live alone - pay bills, lock my door, clean the bathroom myself - and hunkered down in an East Village studio solo.
And as I get older, the "now is the best time" mentality rings truer than ever. So the “band” put in a few extra practices, rented a recording studio and laid down a few tracks to try to drop the quotes when talking about our "band."
I loved my quarter-life a year ago, but today, I love it even more. It gets monotonous in this city that never sleeps, and it's nice to change the scenery every now and again to maintain one's sanity. And while I welcome changes, I also still cling to the things that I loved a year ago. I go on weekly dinner dates (see also - concerts) with my former roommate, I am still addicted to avocado sushi rolls (takeout, sit-down or otherwise) and am still running races - but have replaced the half-marathon's of yore with a full one this fall.
And while I'm not quite there, I'm confident that all these little changes during my quarter-life will just result in one big life. And in due time (and probably behind my back), that framework will actually fill itself out.